Aaron Kennard - Reinventing Habits

Sick in bed with a horrible sore throat in 2011, Aaron Kennard had an epiphany that changed his life. The Dad of 4 was feeling down and turned it around with a complete change of attitude. Yes, he still had the pain, but his choice to shift his perspective changed his ability to manage and cope with the problem with a much better mindset.

The decision to redirect his thoughts began that night, and was the beginning of a truly amazing life, even through another major life challenge with a very serious illness in 2012.

Aaron is the  Chief Life Lover at Truly Amazing Life Inc., author of Amazon bestseller, The Positive-Thinking Secret, and has a ton of information to share on his website, trulyamazinglife .com. His new series, The 12 Secrets to A Truly Amazing Life is a Transformational book series that sets you free from the shackles in your mind so you can live in a state of joy.

Aaron believes that everyone is entitled to live literally a Truly Amazing Life. Stop sabotaging yourself. He believes we all have a choice to make as to whether we live in mediocrity, choose to live just going through the motions, succumb to the pain or illness we may be living in or whatever situations life has handed us or to stand up and believe we can live a life better than that by changing the way we think. Does it mean life will be perfect? No, BUT it can be AMAZING.

Listen to this episode to hear Aaron talk with Steve and Mary about the catalyst sore throat that led to his epiphany started it all and not only changed his own life, but in the process has impacted many thousands of others.


In This Episode

1 – Review Of The Lucci Quads; We Put Money On A Pedestal; Show Me That You Love Me
2 – It All Started With The Pain Of A Sore Throat; I’m In Control Of My Thoughts
3 – Principles To An Amazing Life; I Have No Faith

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Steve: Ah, Man…

Mary: Right?

Steve: Welcome to another edition here of Reinvention Radio. I am your host, Steve Olsher, along with Mary Goulet, Rich Otey, White Wade, Kelly Poelker is hanging out around here somewhere. Oh, my goodness, if you didn’t listen to – if you’re on the Podcast version here and you did not yet take a listen to the Lucci quads – wow!

Mary: What a story.

Steve: What a story. Oh, my God.

Mary: And they were so sweet.

Steve: They were so sweet and I got to tell you, like, this is one of those defining moments for them, because they’re just starting to do media, they’ve just done a little bit… That story of the Lucci quads and what they are doing, they’re just going… There’s no way on God’s green earth that that story doesn’t hit somewhere in a really, really big way.

Mary: And they just scratched the surface with their story. They kind of glossed over about six years. I was like, umm, wow!

Steve: Yeah. And, so Rich, you were saying, you were pretty quiet during that one, man, because I could see…

Rich: I didn’t say a damn word.

Mary: I cried.

Steve: I could see the rage was just like building and you were saying in between the shows here that you were thinking like if I could just find their father and just take his arm and beat him with it, like… Uh. I get it!

Rich: I can’t understand that. I’m sitting here trying to spend every single second I can with Olivia. Yu get blessed with these children and… It’s kind of the after… Okay, so I was saying to Mary. Alright, so you had more kids than you thought, you maybe thought you’re going to have one more boy, whatever, maybe thinking he was going for a basketball team or something…

Steve: Yeah, with the seven.

Rich: And he ends up getting… But to hunt him down later and to keep giving him a hard time and all that, I just – it’s a whole other level of sick.

Steve: Yeah. He’s sick, man!

Mary: Right.

Steve: And you were saying you’ve got you’re – how old is she now, 3 ½?

Rich: 3 1/2, yeah.

Steve: Were you here for the first segment where Bianca was talking about her Mom coming home and seeing her in basically a pool of blood as a baby?

Mary: Yeah.

Rich: Yeah. I was listening, I was going to be like one minute late, I was listening in the car and I was like, God, do I even want to go in? It was just like the foster home…

Steve: Right, with Ashley.

Rich: With Ashley we had. It’s the two shows I didn’t say a damn word because I just wanted. I felt like I was either going to burst into tears or start screaming at somebody.

Steve: Yeah, yuck, I hear you. Well, it’s a story that is as painful as it is, it’s equally inspiring.

Mary: Yeah. If they do it right, it’s going to be one of those – I don’t know, like, not a documentary but one of those big stories. I keep flashing on the two girls back in Cleveland who were like stuck in a house…

Steve: Oh, God, the…

Mary: …for years and years and years.

Steve: Right. Yeah, you’re going to see these girls on the cover of People Magazine. That will happen.

Mary: Standing strong.

Rich: They had great personalities. That was the only thing that kept me from totally breaking down while I was sitting there was like, look they’re going to do it. Thank goodness they had each other, right?

Mary: Yes.

Rich: That’s probably the big…

Steve: And it’s interesting too because when you think about society – and the thing that I hate about the news in general is the expression goes if it bleeds, it leads. Right? I mean, that’s the whole news kind of mentality. And it’s just so damn sad…

Mary: Yeah.

Steve: …that we are in this society where everything is so sensationalized. And when you think about four girls – four beautiful, intelligent… The way that these girls have persevered and what they will be able to do moving forward…

Mary: Exactly.

Steve: …is nothing short of just miraculous.

Mary: Well, and the opportunities that will come to them because they are all four just beauties, they’re not tatted up, they don’t have rage around them. They’re just like…

Steve: Yeah. Think about the directions…

Mary: Right?

Steve: We talked about this with Adam Markel, right? We talked about the two brothers, the twins, who had these really like f*cked up parents. I mean, just like – just bad, bad, like abused and one of them turned out it was just like – the bell of the ball. I mean, this guy was successful, he was this amazing man, and this other one was just a criminal, right? I mean, just like this awful life and just a horrible human being and when the question was asked about why did you turn out that way or why do you think you turned out this way, both of them answered in the exact same way, which is how else could I be? With that as my example.

Mary: Right. Hey, and then you get four for four awesome kids? Geez.

Steve: So, that’s what I was saying. It’s like – think about the sensationalism around just our obsession with the wrong things in this culture. I mean, because think about the Kardashians. When I see those four girls I think about how would you like to be watching the show about these four girls and the amazing things that they are up to…

Mary: Instead of the knucklehead Kardashians?

Steve: Instead of the knucklehead Kardashians, right?

Mary: They make me sick. Sorry.

Steve: Well, I get it. I totally get it in terms of you’ve got money and there’s this whole thing about like we as a society just like we put money on a pedestal. And we’re like, okay, that’s the aspiration – that’s what we aspire to. We aspire to have that life, that house, be able to get this, that and the other, but, in fact, what Paris said when I asked her about name something that someone does for you or has done for you that really just meant the world to you and really impacted your life.

Rich: Oh, come to the game or whatever?

Mary: Yeah.

Steve: She had nothing to say about anything material. It was simply come to the game, cheer me on, show me – show me that you love me. Don’t buy me things and say here’s my love, although if you buy us Lay’s® sour cream and onion potato chips you will have our hearts forever, but…

Rich: We’ve been doing this for a while though. The Kardashians are basically like Robin Leach but with girls, right?

Steve: Right.

Rich: We’ve been still propping up the rich and watching what the rich do…

Steve: Yeah.

Rich: …and doing all that stuff now and it’s just with T&A.

Steve: Yeah. You know it’s funny. I watched a – I literally just watched an interview with Tupoc Shakur from 1992, where he was talking about a little bit about Trump but mostly about wealth, and mostly about how we have just such ridiculous discrepancies between the haves and the have nots. This was 1992, so this is 24 years ago which saying that in and of itself is a trip to say that that was 24 years ago with that interview. But, what he was saying was like basically it’s not right. You’ve got somebody with 35 million in the bank and then you’ve got somebody on the street who can’t eat because they’ve got nothing to their name. You know, it’s like you’ve got this house, you’ve got two kids, and your house has 52 rooms.

Mary: Right.

Steve: It’s like, why on earth – you’ve got rooms you don’t even use and you’ve got this kid on the street who doesn’t have a single room at all. And you were talking about, Mary, just before we got started here that you are doing something where you’re going to be feeding the homeless teens…

Mary: Well, so, okay, I had a guest on a show here at the studio and she started an organization 25 years called Stand Up for Kids. Now, it’s nationwide, so we have one – it’s a teen drop-in Center. So, the kids who are homeless can only go to this Center between 5 PM and 8:30 and they have to be back out on the street by 8:30 so they can blend back into the community, and then they sleep there. But at this Center they can take a shower, they can do their laundry, they get clothing, they get help with trying to get back into school, they get a meal…

Steve: But they can’t stay there.

Mary: They cannot stay there. Because there’s a whole big… This organization wants to stay out of the government. So, if they stay there, they have to register them as runaways and then they get thrown into the system.

Steve: And then they end up with some jackass that just brings them in for the check.

Mary: Exactly. So, this gal has created this Center, only volunteers help. So, a year ago I got involved with them and got the Moms and the kids from my daughter’s school involved in last Spring after the kids graduate… Well, summer, we grabbed 60 backpacks from – decent backpacks, gently used, because the backpacks are their homes, it’s their bedding, their homework, their bathroom – anything that they need is in their backpack and they keep getting stolen or left and they never find them again…

Steve: Oh, God!

Mary: …so we always have to replenish the backpacks, the toiletries, the clothing… So, we take things to them like for Christmas, Valentine’s, St. Patrick’s, Easter… For Christmas we made 25-36 stockings and put stuff in them and dropped them off…

Steve: Wow! Nice!

Mary: …and we do that for the holidays for them, and warm meals and then I was mentioning to you in two weekends – next weekend, Camp Land in Mission Beach or Mission Valley opens up and we’re providing sack lunches for them to go to Belmont Park on Saturday and we’re providing a hot lunch for 25 kids on Sunday morning so we can interact with them and…

Steve: Wow!

Mary: …taking my daughters so they can experience, you know what girls?

Steve: Right. You’re pretty damn lucky, right?

Mary: And these children are safer on the street than they are on their own family’s homes, right?

Steve: I mean, geez, you talk about – look at this… I mean, this guy is still threatening them…

Mary: It’s just insane! I want to find this…

Steve: I know. That’s what Rich was saying. You could see the color changing in his face whenever we – it’s like uhhhh I totally get it! But, so…

Mary: It’s out there, guys.

Steve: It’s… All we could do obviously is talk about this and do our own thing. The hope is that some of these conversations spur on a larger movement, right? I mean, that’s the hope. As…

Mary: More awareness.

Steve: …here on Reinvention Radio we talk about what we could reinvent, and reinventing x, y, or z. Clearly, that whole foster care system because now we’ve talked about it twice needs some serious reinventing and when you talk about bringing your kids and doing the whole thing with the homeless, which is amazing and that’s so cool that you’re doing the Stand Up for Kids, you’re helping them to create a better life and it’s just… I mean, it’s truly amazing…

Mary: It is because the biggest thing they get is that somebody cares about them.

Steve: Yeah. And it’s perfect here that we’re talking about creating an amazing life because we’re going to have Aaron Kennard on who is going to be talking about Creating a Truly Amazing Life, right after this.


Mary: Dude, Steve Olsher.

Steve: Hello!

Mary: Hi. Welcome to the show.

Steve: Welcome back to Reinvention Radio. You actually said you were going to start it, I believed you!

Rich: You were telling the truth.

Steve: I actually believed you. I guess I’m the gullible one. [Laugh]

Mary: Yes!

Steve: Mary said I’m going to start this one on Reinvention Radio. I said okay, that’s fine! And then you looked at me like what are you doing and I looked at you like I guess I need to be talking on the mic here. Alright, so here’s what we’re doing. We are talking to Aaron Kennard here of A Truly Amazing Life and I think we are actually talking to Aaron Kennard here of A Truly Amazing Life so let’s bring Aaron back on and we say back because we had a little technical difficulties but we worked through it and I think we’re good now. Aaron you’re still there, correct?

Aaron: Can you guys hear me this time?

Steve: Okay, that’s perfect. Yeah, sweet.

Mary: Yay, there he is!

Steve: Alright, so because we now have 36 seconds left…

Aaron: Oh, we’re talking it live. No problem.

Steve: Yeah, we’re all good. So we have 36 seconds now left in your segment here.

Aaron: [Laughs]

Steve: And so tell everybody about A Truly Amazing Life and what it is that you’re doing exactly.

Aaron: Did you say 36 seconds?

Steve: I’m just playing. We’ve got a little more than 36 seconds, we’re all good.

Aaron: Okay. [Laughs] Well, where do you want me to start? What do you want me to talk… Do you just want me to tell people how to live a Truly Amazing Life or what?

Steve: People need to know who you are, what you do, because people have no clue right now. We have no context to work on.

Mary: We just know you’re not A-Aron.

Steve: Exactly, not A-Aron. We know that.

Aaron: Alright. I’ll give you the briefest intro possible that maybe to get you up to speed. I’m a Dad of four kids, I live in Salt Lake City, Utah, and I’m about 36 years old. Does that give you a picture of who I am? I like to ski and bike and stuff and basically for 4 years ago I had this epiphany or I was kind of not living a Truly Amazing Life. I was kind of going through the motions in work, working in my real estate business and really kind of drudgery. Had this epiphany one night where – well, one time when I had this sore throat that wouldn’t go away for about a month and about three weeks into it, I was laying in bed one night just thinking to myself, what is the advantage to this pain and because I had been reading books by Napoleon Hill and he’s very adamant that every adversity comes with an equal or opposite advantage or the seed of which. I was just asking myself at that time and in that moment at night I was dreading going to sleep and I had this thought just kind of strike me like hey, just say thank you. When it hurts, when you swallow and it hurts say thank you first, it’s five things. So I did that and I just say thank you for my wife and my children. I was lying there feeling like crap, not wanting to go to sleep at all, and feeling like it’s going to be a super long night. So when I started saying thank you I started feeling better and than I thought okay, I swallowed again and there’s this searing pain in my throat and I said okay I’ll say thank you for five more things I did and I started feeling pretty good actually. And then this epiphany hit me like – it’s knowledge I already knew but now somehow experientially this hit me so deeply that I’m in control of my thoughts and that this pain, I could turn this to a reminder to direct my thoughts to gratitude and therefore direct my life and my state to joy and all of a sudden I was overcome with this euphoric joyful feeling, just grinning ear to ear. I slept peacefully that night. I woke up the next day on just cloud nine. I looked in the mirror, I swallowed, the pain was still searing and I was just grinning. I was so happy and I was saying thank you for the sore throat for what it taught me and basically from that day on – it was 2011. It was December 11, 2011, like life became truly amazing thing for me. I had found this secret key that nothing, no pain, nothing could get in my way and stop me from… I have the ability to choose to be happy and to choose to change my thoughts and change my state and it was like this is the stuff that is taught by every guru out there but for whatever reason it didn’t really kind of connect and hit home for me really solidly until that day and it basically changed everything and let me on to this course of feeling like sharing that message and it’s led me to writing numerous books and I’m now writing a 12 book series on the 12 Pillars of a Truly Amazing Life and there’s these 12 habits that are these fundamental habits that I found. After that time I kind of just discovered that every day I felt amazing and never had bad days anymore and it boiled down to really these 12 pillars that I now teach as these principles; these fundamental habits essentially.

Steve: Um hmm.

Aaron: So there’s the big picture. What questions do you have for me? Where do you want me to go from here?

Steve: Well, first and foremost, did your sore throat ever go away? I think that’s the most important question of all.

Mary: [laughs]

Aaron: The sore throat went away like a week later. I went in and found out it was this weird thing called tonsil stones. After like the third doctor they finally found what it was. It was these little build up of calcium on the back of my tonsils and they pulled it out of there and my sore throat went away.

Steve: Wow!

Aaron: Like the next day. It was life changing. And then I had told myself at that time that you know what, no amount of pain can tell me that I’m going to declare this day as a bad day because I get to choose if it’s a good day or a bad day. I get to choose the way I classify the day so there is no such thing as the bad day unless I choose it. And I basically set myself up for probably the biggest craziest test of my life possibly by believing that and starting to teach that which I can tell you about kind of the more crazy story that happened about six months later if you want to hear that led to my first book that’s now been read 3 or 400,000 times.

Steve: Yeah, nice.

Aaron: So that’s the next step in the journey but I can… That’s the next step in the journey.

Steve: Let me ask you this because the question I have and I think there are probably others like me out there who have this question and if you’ve listened to the show before you know I’m kind of a cynic. Let’s just say depressive in nature. Like you know, it’s not like that I don’t think that the sun can’t shine out of somebody’s ass all day long, every day. I mean I think it’s possible. But I also think that there are the realities of life and like some things just suck, you know?

Aaron: Yeah.

Mary: Right.

Steve: You know, like what I’m going through right now. And it’s funny because every time I talk to Aaron I got shit going on in my life. That’s not good. Aaron, we got to figure this thing out man!

Mary: Oh boy!

Aaron: You live in San Diego, what could be going wrong now?

Steve: I know, right? Oh man! But no seriously, there are things that happen like I get it and it makes sense where you want to say okay thank you for having this in my life and I appreciate what I have and I’m grateful and I wake up with my gratitude journal and I wake… I don’t do these things, I’m just saying this, and this is somebody else talking.

Mary: [Laughing]

Steve: But you know, I wake up and I’m grinning and I’m just happy but what do you say to those people who like have to deal with some real stuff? Like we just had the Lucci twins on – the quadruplets. I don’t know why I keep saying twins, there’s four of them but we just had the Lucci quads on and they went through some serious hell and they will continue to go through some serious hell based on their father and all that horse shit they’re having to deal with there but you can’t or I guess you can say hey, you have a choose now, you can choose to live in that pain or you can choose to be happy and it’s kind of hard to sell somebody on being happy when they’re going through that pain.

Aaron: Yeah, it’s the hardest thing you can do and it’s hard to feel happy when you’re going through that pain. No matter what you go through, I mean I basically tell everybody and the basic essence of my book is everything is conspiring for your benefit. But that’s tough to hear when you’re going through hell. Basically the short version is that I completely hear what you’re saying and I don’t think that… I mean, I personally don’t live in the state of blissful, sunny-like, huge grins all day long every day and I think people get that mistake when I say look this is a truly amazing life and that you have the ability to choose your thinking and in the eve of the moment. That doesn’t mean personally for me that I’m never going to be sad and that I’m never going to feel down. I mean there are things… Life happens. There are challenges in relationships, my son’s going through things that make me sad. Just a couple weeks ago we were not relating to each other and I felt really – I felt horrible because our relationship wasn’t working. I was very saddened by that and I needed to figure that out and luckily we talked and I took him to dinner and we worked it out and I felt better but it’s not like I was living on a blissful high right at that moment, but that also doesn’t negate the fact that I believe that life is truly amazing and I think that’s just part of life. The lows and the highs, they’re all part of our journey and an important part and I wouldn’t try to tell somebody, look, life is meant to be 100% happy all the time, sadness is a bad emotion, you’re never supposed to feel it, you’re only supposed to fell bliss and it’s totally possible, I think that would be the biggest lie ever and maybe that’s what you’re getting at. Like, when you talk about hey, you can choose your thoughts and be happy that doesn’t mean ever second of every day and I think sadness and pain and anger and all of those emotions that we experience are part and valid parts of life and important parts that we experience. Did that help maybe reframe it a little bit?

Steve: Yeah, totally and I have to say I’m completely jealous of the relationship you have with your 2-year-old son because to be able to take him out to dinner and to be able to talk to him about…

Aaron: He’s 11 years old now.

Steve: Oh, okay I get it. Because I was going to say because I try to do that with my 2-year-old and it didn’t work the same way for me but he’s 11 so I guess that makes a little more sense.

Aaron: Eleven is a different story.

Steve: Alright, yeah for sure so now wait, so 3 or 400,000 people… First of all, you don’t know because that’s a pretty big difference. Like if 100,000 people…

Aaron: Well, the last I checked it was 310,000. It’s probably 320 or 315 now. It’s probably not close to 400 so I probably shouldn’t have said that but I haven’t checked in 6 or 8 months, so...

Steve: But still that’s pretty amazing. So wait, they’re reading, is that one of your books, what is that number?

Aaron: My book, yeah, my first book that I published, it’s called The Positive Thinking Secret and I published it on Kindle and on Audible and on paperback versions, so it’s on Amazon. I published it in 2013 directly after I healed from this life threatening disease that nearly took me out in 2012.

Steve: Wow! You sold 310,000 copies of the book or is it a freebie or how – because that’s a huge number, man.

Aaron: Well, yeah it’s been read… So what I did my strategy was giving it away for free for the first year and a half and so probably 290,000 of those were like free Kindle downloads. So it’s been read that many times. It’s been sold probably 30 or 40,000 times, 30ish thousand times like actual sales. It’s pretty solid too but it started out mostly was the free, when I was giving it away for so long.

Steve: Yeah, that’s a killer strategy and for those who have books if you want to find out more information about Aaron and some of the strategies that he’s doing… Because I think you do other things right? Don’t you do some Coaching and you do some other work as well other than just writing correct?

Aaron: Yeah, I do the Coach, the book writing and Life Coaching through that and I’m also a real estate investor as far as other businesses go and working on developing an accountability and training app right now with another partner, so, yeah, I do numerous different things.

Steve: Yeah, alright, sweet, so let’s do this. We’ll take a quick break here on Reinvention Radio and we will be right back with Aaron Kennard of a Truly Amazing Life right after this.


Steve: Alright. Welcome back to another edition here of Reinvention Radio. I’m your host Steve Olsher with Mary Goulet, Rich Otey and Aaron Kennard joining us on the phone. Let’s bring Aaron back on here, we’re talking about a Truly Amazing Life and the book. Let’s talk about the 12 – I guess there are 12 secrets that you talk about to having a Truly Amazing Life. Let’s first name the 12 and then let’s run through a couple of them.

Aaron: Yeah. So the 12 codes – the 12 secrets are these principles and each principle is associated with a habit, so the 12 principles are celebrate, smile, believe, enjoy, think, create, succeed, remember, empower, give, grow and love. Those are the core principles and there’s various habits associated with each of those principles, like meditation, writing, selfless service, affirmations – each of those kind of are associated with each one of those core principles.

Steve: Okay. So of those 12, which do you, think has… Because obviously each of them has significant impact but… If you could only pick three. Let’s just say 12 is unrealistic.

Aaron: Yeah.

Steve: Like, that’s just a lot, so if we could just start with three, if you had to pick 3 and just say hey start with these three which would you suggest and then what are some of the practical things that we can do with those three?

Aaron: Yeah, so the pillar of believe would be the number one thing I think to start with and that’s essentially believing that this is a Truly Amazing Life, that everything is conspiring for your benefit and that… I mean I would almost start with just that one. Like that’s kind of the core fundamental shift that kind of needs to take place in order to reframe life. Like, if you’re looking at life from the standpoint of man, everything is conspiring against me, and nothing seems to work out for me and if that’s the way you go through your life, you’re kind of just… You’re dead in the water from the get-go. You’re never really going to… You just can’t live a truly amazing life from that frame. So that’s why believe is the number one thing that I would start with and the core habit behind that is changing your beliefs, because we’ve been trained from the young age and our mind has been programmed to believe certain ways and the only way to really change that is to get in new environments or to change it forcibly through affirmations, actually reprogram through repetition of new beliefs. And so that’s what I… That’s one of the habits I teach is to repeat the truth to yourself, to affirm your truth multiple times a day throughout the day. And if you…

Steve: So what’s that sound like? Literally, what would you say to yourself?

Aaron: So I would like look in the mirror or I would just think to myself everything is conspiring for my benefit. Just that one statement repeated to myself multiple times during the day and like say if… I mean I have a whole list of affirmations, so I affirm my truths in the sense that I have maybe multiple pages of truthful statements that I want to remember every day and I do that one per day. So this is literally what it looks like for me. I wake up in the morning and I meditate and then I just have a list, three or four pages of just these truths, like hey everything is conspiring for your benefit. You are amazing, like I’m excited for what the day is going to hold for me and just kind of like hey I’m an amazing father, I treat my wife with respect and dignity, I treat her as the queen that she is… Wo I have a whole list of just things that these are the ways that I see myself and want to be and I remind myself of those truths in the morning so that I’m programming that into my mind. But then throughout the day I might be working on like one – shifting one belief or just a couple beliefs. So like what I teach people is start with this belief everything is conspiring for my benefit. And just start three or four times during the day just sit with that for a minute or 30 seconds. You just stop what you’re doing and think everything is conspiring for my benefit and just imagine… Like, you might have an experience where somebody just cuts you off or you might have gotten just like hurt by somebody and it’s hard to reconcile, hey, that belief, I don’t believe that, like this is a bad thing. And so it forces you throughout the day to confront that belief and over time if you do that every single day you’ll start to believe it more and more and it’s one of those things where it doesn’t have to be true. It doesn’t have to be like, everything is conspiring… Everything is conspiring against me is just as true as everything is conspiring for my benefit. It’s just totally up to me, whichever one I want to believe. There’s no way to prove either way.

Steve: Let me ask you this. Here’s my question and you know again I wholeheartedly believe in the power of positive thinking and Norman Vincent Peale and all that stuff, I get it, it makes sense but isn’t it a little bit narcissistic to think that everything is conspiring for my benefit? Like literally…

Mary: No, I think it’s kind of the force of the universe, it’s like…

Steve: But how on earth… I think about this sh*t all the time, like how on earth can the universe like have an agenda for all of these billions of people. Like I mean…

Mary: It’s kind of the definition of faith, dude.

Steve: Which I have none.

Mary: Alright, there we go! Our job is done, Aaron.

Steve: So maybe that’s my problem right there, I have no faith but I can’t believe like literally… If somebody cuts you off in traffic, like somebody’s literally out there making that happen – like this is going to happen to this person.

Rich: That’s why you’ve got to start with believe.

Aaron: No, let’s check it out first. Take this other perspective on it, Steve, check this out. So, instead of having to worry about some divine power like orchestrating everything for you, like I think that’s what most people think when they hear that, but think about it this way, if I say everything is conspiring for my benefit what is that doing to my focus? That is making me look for how is this going to benefit me. It doesn’t matter who orchestrated it what’s happening, it doesn’t matter whether there’s a God or whether there’s no God, it doesn’t matter about any of that stuff. All it’s doing is I’m saying look, I don’t care what happens like somebody could shoot the person next to me, they can shoot – like horrible, crazy bad things can happen to me that are completely outside of my control. And you know what, that’s not going to make me happy, I’m not going to love it if I had to witness my family get murdered. Obviously, that’s going to be the most torturous thing of all time but I’m going to choose – it’s a conscious choice and says you know what I don’t care what happened because I can’t control everything that happens. So therefore, I am not going to let those things control me. I can control them and nothing is going to happen that I’m not going to choose to say I’m going to find the benefit in that and I’m going to make the best of that. That’s what it means to me. When I say everything is conspiring for my benefit, it’s just a conscious choice to say that I absolutely refuse to give the control of my life to somebody else.

Steve: Mary, what do you think about that?

Aaron: And everything that’s happened, I will make the best of it. What’s that?

Mary: Okay, so I get what you’re saying Aaron and I kind of go with it because if you look at things black and white. If a good thing happens and you’re like woo hoo and there’s a bad thing that happens you’re like boo hoo stepping back, not being emotionally attached to the outcome of whatever it is and just kind of maintain a more neutral approach to the good, you can still feel better and taking more of a neutral approach to the bad because there is the humanity, you know, tears and sadness and all that but not diving down into the rabbit hole of the bad and imploding. You know what I mean? You just… Okay, there’s some things going on it may not have anything to do with me but I got caught in the crossfire and I’m going to learn from it and move forward. I think that’s kind of more of the vein he’s talking about.

Steve: Yeah, alright.

Aaron: Exactly! And for me there’s definitely a faith aspect like I do believe in God and I kind of just… I have this feeling that maybe beyond that but I talked to people that don’t have that belief. It’s just like… For me, I don’t see this particular belief as needing to have a faith base to it like from a God standpoint. It’s more of just like a decision of how I choose to direct my thoughts and how I choose to react to everything that’s happening to me.

Steve: Yeah, alright, well let’s do this because unfortunately we’re going to have to wrap here at this… Man, the show just flies by, you know?

Mary: I know!

Steve: We need to do like a 24-hour episode of Reinvention Radio. As a matter of fact, let’s just do that.

Mary: [Laughs]

Steve: So next Thursday, we’re going to do a 24 hour episode here of Reinvention Radio. That’ll be the plan so… Aaron Kennard of TrulyAmazing Life.com…

Mary: Cool site.

Steve: That is T - r - u - l - y because I’m one of those people that would spell truly T - r - u - e or t - r - u - l - e - y. So if you’re like…

Mary: Really?

Steve: Yeah, really.

Mary: You would do that.

Steve: You don’t see any of those like National Geographic Spelling Bee Award things like that in my house anywhere, so TrulyAmazing Life.com is where you can find out more information about Aaron Kennard and all of his various books. Very cool, appreciate you being on the program with us here my man. Alright, so for Mary Goulet, Rich Otey, White Wade, Kelly Poelker, I’m Steve Olsher we’ll talk to you guys next time on Reinvention Radio.


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