Rhoberta Shaler, PhD - Reinventing Difficult People

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD is known as The Relationship Help Doctor. For over 30 years, in both the USA and Canada, Dr. Shaler has worked with people who are struggling with life, death, and relationships. She focuses specifically on what she calls Hijackals™ – chronically difficult people who hijack relationships for their own purposes.

Dr. Shaler calms the turbulence of troubled relationships. She creates the insights, skills and space for new beginnings and positive re-connections. She offers the insights and pattern-breaking skills that lead to blame-free, game-free, non-manipulative relationships.

Dr. Shaler is a prolific author, having written  more than 15 books. Her fifteenth book, Kaizen For Couples™: Smart Steps to Save, Sustain & Strengthen Your Relationship, is the summary of a lifetime of insights developed from working with real people confronting the real life challenges of living and loving together. It offers workable solutions to twenty-first century relationship issues and a new proven model for living the loving relationship you most want.  She has also begun an ebook series, the first of which, Escaping the Hijackal Trap: The Definitive Guide to Dealing with Chronically Difficult People, was released in April, 2016.

Dr. Shaler’s work has been featured on FoxNews, PsychCentral, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, The Good Men Project, eHarmony, Care2, Greatist, Pulse, and The Needs, among many others. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp.com, is an evergreen source of practical insights and tips for relationships. Her newsletter and podcast, Coupleology: Vital Tips for Relationships, provides valuable strategies weekly.

TUNE IN to this episode to hear Dr. Shaler talk with Steve and Mary about the HijackalTM trap and how best to respond to difficult people who hijack relationships for their own purposes.


In This Episode

1 – The Doctor Is In; What Is A Hijackal? It Rhymes With Rump; Crazy Making Behavior Is Crazy Making Behavior
2 – Staying In Relationships With Hijackals; 4% Of The Population Has It In Their DNA; Are You Hijackal Bait?
3 – How To Spot A Hijackal; Speak From Your Own Weather Forecast; CEOs Who Were Entrepreneurs Are Trouble At Work; Cutting The Rope With A Hijackal

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